This is quite hard to talk about because people are made and designed to be different from each other and so as the perception and even the mindset. We can't actually tell what are the dislikes and likes of a person, where he excels most and where is he afraid of.
"You're not a real man if you cannot approach a woman." My friends used to tell that and I don't know if I'd agree or disagree 'cause obviously, manhood isn't all about how valiant you are, sometimes it's all about careful considerations and decisions. Well, not all people hold a courage to take a move. During such situations, your idea generates and you analyze all that comes from box. In fact, there are things that a person should consider first before he jump into such thoughtful action. Inhibiting oneself from doing the things that need a further pursuance is a part of the regulatory emotional strategy of a person. They are already aware of the consequences that awaits them, and trying to save himself from disappointment and pain is just a phase.
We are all familiar with the word "torpe". Torpe refers to a person who is afraid to admit his feelings to someone he really admire or love. They are actually scripted by their own ideological sense and culture at large and I'd like to elaborate and specify the possible reasons that trigger them to refrain from courting in accordance of my own observations.
1. Fear of Rejection.
Everyone is afraid of rejection. When you're rejected, you feel like you're insensible, derp and the ugliest person to ever set foot on earth. But you can never tell unless you try. There is nothing scarier than to waste your once in a lifetime opportunity.
2. Her Friends' Seduction.
Sometimes it's really annoying how her friends manipulate the mind and decision of your ideal girl. No matter how much we want to prove ourselves, once her friends hate you, they can always find ways to discredit you by giving false advice and information.
3. Financial Status
Struggling for financial support is quite difficult especially for a guy. It's always a must that guys spend more than girls could do. There are times that you couldn't help but think what to give during the courting progress and if ever, during monthsaries, anniversaries, and Valentine's when the time comes.
4. The Girl Is Rich.
Being in a "class C" society when the girl is belong to the "class A" is really scary for a guy. Let's all accept that out of 10 women, only 8% won't care whether the guy is a pauper or sumptuous, unluckily, your ideal girl is into 2% who cares about the manner of living. Relationship doesn't happen because they love each other, sometimes it exists because of wealth.
5. She's Beautiful and Ms. Popular.
Another factor is the popularity standing of the girl. If the guy thinks that the girl has got everything, he'll surely discourage himself because he knows his own standpoint. The physical attribute and the favorable society greatly affect the decision of a guy whether to court or not.
6. Your Competitor Is Drawn From Aphrodite's womb.
Idiomatically speaking, your competing with a handsome or drop-dead gorgeous guy. Of course, who wouldn't get envied and threatened when you know that there is someone who's more attractive, hunkier and well-groomed? Whose personality is more pleasing and likable for a girl?
7. Time and Place.
You're actually waiting for the perfect time to arrive for your moment to happen without knowing when, where and how. It's like your living with the epigram "tomorrow is another day". Tomorrow doesn't end.
8. Low Self-Esteem.
He considers his physical appearance, tangible stuff, and any defaming and insulting points he has that discourage him. If the guy isn't confident about himself, he'll surely lose the chance to win the girl. There are times that the guy wins a girl even though he isn't attractive. It has been derived from his effort and self-confidence.
9. Her Standards/ Qualifications
The guy is fairly alarmed with the girl's qualifications. If he knows that he's out of her personal choice, he would then drop his sword because the standards already told him he's out. But you can always break her list. It's always the effort that counts.
10. Parents' Instructions/ Mother's Golden Rule.
This is worse than her friends' manipulation. This is almost the same with the girl being rich.
11. Advance Thinker/ Future Reliant/ Pessimistic.
A part of pessimism in a guy that can never be beaten. When he thinks that their relationship won't work in the near future, or someone's gonna fall out, then he's probably depriving himself to try his luck. An encapsulation from over-thinking is heading its way.
12. Crush Crashes.
Sometimes, a guy isn't sure about his feelings. He's confused about the extremity of his affection towards the girl. If he's just infatuated or inlove.
13. Ex's Power.
He's being discouraged when he saw that the girl is still in love with her ex, that her ex still holds a power to get her back. He is more likely to feel dismay with the situation and vulnerable because the edge isn't at him.
14. Responsibility/ Not yet ready.
He considers his maturity when it comes to handling a serious and long-term relationship. He also considers his own capabilities to make it work and how hard the responsibility would be. This case occurs during teenage years, especially when the guy is studious and a family-pet.
15. Prioritizing Friendship rather than Relationship
This happens when the guy is friends with the girl. What matters most is the friendship and that he doesn't want to put an end onto it. He believes that it's better to be friends 'cause it lasts for a longer period of time, in comparison with the commitment which can be the luck there off.
16. Past Hauls Off
The guy is enclosed with his own past. If he had felt betrayed and unlucky from his past relationship, he'll get afraid to feel the same pain again, so the tendency is he'll inhibit himself to court again no matter how he loves the girl. It will be hard for him to see girls possessing different character. One thing he knows is all girls are same and he generalizes it.
But if you really love the person, you should take all the risks and hindrances that may get in your way. It's like a gamble that requires effort.
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: Migs Lorenzana
